You will be forgiven to think that dating today is easier compared to three decades ago. Despite the world having thousands of channels through which people can interact and even meet their dates and life partners, the dating scene is no easy stroll in the park. The situation is even bleak for people who suffer any disability.
On top of the challenges that you imagine you have dating as a normal person, add that on to what a disabled person has to deal with and you will see things differently. This is not to say that being disabled makes it impossible to date, but rather, it is a tedious job. Here are some of the challenges that disabled people have to deal with on top of what a normal person experiences.
People will vanish the moment they discover you use a wheelchair or you have a disability. This will be the case particularly if you fail to mention about your condition early enough. Dating today is normally initiated online, you might be tempted to skip the obvious detail – you have a disability. While some people will take you as you are, others will run when they discover this. The solution to this is to be clear and honest from the word go.
Oftentimes, you find people trying to empathize with a person who has a disability. In certain cases, you will even find people ‘falling in love’ with the situation that you are in rather than yourself. In such instances you will hear of people saying that you are very ‘inspiring’. While a disabled person can be inspiring, it is important for people to realize that a disabled person is eking through life like anyone else. Complementing them for something obvious in their state can make them feel like you are doing so out of pity. Dating can be full of these comments.
The society is such that many ‘normal’ people will overlook a disabled person when searching for a date or partner. This often leads to emotional humiliation for a disabled person. In order to deal with that, many disabled people will look for casual dates. A person with a disability will first look into ways through which they can determine if their date is the right one to share their emotions with.
Culture is not to be forgotten as the one major challenge that a majority of disabled people have to deal with. In some cultures, a disabled person is regarded as person of no use. Such cultures perceive disabled people as the damaged goods of the human race and they should not be socialized with. Dating a person either ‘normal’ or disabled from such a society can pose big problems now and later.
Everyone deserves a good life. A person with a disability deserves to be happy just like a ‘normal’ person. Dating for people with disabilities has been made incredibly easy today because there are countless dating sites which are specifically dedicated to them. There are many dating sites which specifically target disabled. However, there are several other sites which have moved from separating people into normal and disabled as far as dating is involved and they encourage all to mingle and date.
A dating site should of course have the prerequisite numbers. A dating site with just 100 profiles is no dating site. A dating site should ideally be one where there are thousands if not tens of thousands of singles who are looking for dates. There is a huge advantage in numbers. You will have the opportune luxury of perusing through the profiles and this ultimately increases your chance of finding your perfect date.
Dating is big business worth billions of dollars. While a majority of dating sites both those that cater for disabled and non disabled people is growing, there are those which are fraudulent. In order to avoid being scammed, you should check a dating site’s credentials. A good way of knowing whether a website is genuine is by reading its customer reviews which are posted on review sites.
In your life, you must know of a person who has met their partner through internet. It is no longer a weird thing to date online or use dating sites. In fact, the trend today for both people with disabilities and those without is to create an online profile in the hope of finding their date. In order to locate that credible website which offers the best service, ask your friends and family members for any referrals.
While the internet is praised for making the world a perfect global village, there are people who are using it for unscrupulous ends. You should expect scammers and genuine people and anything in between. Be on the lookout because there is always the possibility that you can become a target of a time waster or a scammer. Some disability websites try to minimize this by asking its subscribers to pay a little fee using their credit card.
Dating has no predefined rules which a disabled or a non-disabled person can follow. All you have to do is be yourself and be open to what the world has to offer. The other dating basics include being confident, honesty and most of all trusting your instincts. For your own safety especially on your first date, meet in a public place, do not drink too much and check out the meeting location first.